xachiengx
New Kid on the Block
How could something so wrong make me feel so right, right?
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Post by xachiengx on Sept 27, 2005 17:39:16 GMT
I have been with this guy for nearly 2 years, we used to have some problems at the start, but we got over them(or should i say i just learnt how to ignore them).
The problem is that he hardly ever has a job, and he never takes me out. I'm over the fact he hardly ever takes me out, but i would like him to have settled at a career already, he is 4 years older then me. If i was any other other girl, i would just leave him for another man. But my problem is that although there are loads of men interested in me, because i am only 19, the sort of men i attract aren't interested in marriage, and i don't date, I only enter in relationships, if they could potentially lead to marriage, because i dont see the point of wasting time, and money, in something you know is going nowhere. I also have Christian morals.
When I was younger, I thought i'd find a man in University, but men at uni are all di-ck-he ads that want 'link ups'. Cherie and Toni Blair met each other at uni doing law, and as i am miles better looking then her, i thought it would be easier. As i got older i realised the chances of this were grim, as i am black, and black men have to much pu-s-sy thrown at them, for them to be interested in settling down. Once I even tried Church, because i know there are too many wolves in sheeps clothing.
I wouldn't mind staying and marrying him in afew years (he has already asked me) but i dont want my children growing up in some council estate. And i work too to end up with a slacker. I want out, but does the man I am looking for even exist. By the way, i'm not looking for a rich man,just one that works hard and makes an honest wage like me
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Post by kirkydumf on Sept 27, 2005 17:46:58 GMT
I have been with this guy for nearly 2 years, we used to have some problems at the start, but we got over them(or should i say i just learnt how to ignore them). The problem is that he hardly ever has a job, and he never takes me out. I'm over the fact he hardly ever takes me out, but i would like him to have settled at a career already, he is 4 years older then me. If i was any other other girl, i would just leave him for another man. But my problem is that although there are loads of men interested in me, because i am only 19, the sort of men i attract aren't interested in marriage, and i don't date, I only enter in relationships, if they could potentially lead to marriage, because i dont see the point of wasting time, and money, in something you know is going nowhere. I also have Christian morals. When I was younger, I thought i'd find a man in University, but men at uni are all di-ck-he ads that want 'link ups'. Cherie and Toni Blair met each other at uni doing law, and as i am miles better looking then her, i thought it would be easier. As i got older i realised the chances of this were grim, as i am black, and black men have to much pu-s-sy thrown at them, for them to be interested in settling down. Once I even tried Church, because i know there are too many wolves in sheeps clothing. I wouldn't mind staying and marrying him in afew years (he has already asked me) but i dont want my children growing up in some council estate. And i work too to end up with a slacker. I want out, but does the man I am looking for even exist. By the way, i'm not looking for a rich man,just one that works hard and makes an honest wage like me ahhh! Wasted young punani!!! I say you hold it back till he shapes up. That would make me turn things around..
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kipkorir
New Kid on the Block
East or west, Home is Best!!!Na hiyo ni maendeleo, lol
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Post by kipkorir on Sept 28, 2005 19:41:09 GMT
It is sometimes hard to comment on this topic, but I thought it was the other way round. Maybe one day, one will get the right one. Uni guys are after life and careers, and even end up messing their relationships, for they take it for granted. Also when you say black men, know whom you are referring to, not the Caribean type, for walipoteza mila kitambo sana. African men? Maybe get one who wants to settle. Forget about what you want them to be like, for just like our African women, we have been messed by the fast lane life, we work too much and we jeorpadise relationships. Since we are nolonger interested in going home, we end up with set-up ladies back home, whom you don't even know their middle names! Then life begins its downward roll, and then we blame Euope, ati ni mbaya sana! Anyway, you have your opinions.
Kip.
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Post by odhiambo on Oct 13, 2005 12:25:19 GMT
Achieng....maybe you should whisper those words in to my ears privately..I am no June Koinange or Trisha but I think I may help over a drink
Halla
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xachiengx
New Kid on the Block
How could something so wrong make me feel so right, right?
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Post by xachiengx on Oct 13, 2005 13:37:51 GMT
black person i dont drink. the title was jus to grab attention, i dont really have a problem with black men. My best friend is black, i just like to rant, and hate sumtimes when it comes to men
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xachiengx
New Kid on the Block
How could something so wrong make me feel so right, right?
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Post by xachiengx on Oct 13, 2005 13:39:20 GMT
by the way the first word of the last post was n-i-9-9-a, not black person, this site is too censored
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nelstar
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Post by nelstar on Oct 13, 2005 14:10:39 GMT
achieng, are you black?
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xachiengx
New Kid on the Block
How could something so wrong make me feel so right, right?
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Post by xachiengx on Oct 14, 2005 11:07:07 GMT
sorry i meant my best friend is a black MAN. I also love my daddy and my brothers
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Post by shykoh on Oct 14, 2005 11:36:17 GMT
Achieng, I do not think the question was answered
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xachiengx
New Kid on the Block
How could something so wrong make me feel so right, right?
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Post by xachiengx on Oct 14, 2005 16:44:57 GMT
n-i-g-9-a of course i'm black, look at my name. if my brothers n dad is black, wot does that make me.
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nelstar
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Post by nelstar on Oct 17, 2005 20:17:02 GMT
ohh.. looks like you have a problem being a black person... guess bleaching never worked eh? ama if it worked, you must be giving mj compe....... no pun intended, really
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xachiengx
New Kid on the Block
How could something so wrong make me feel so right, right?
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Post by xachiengx on Oct 18, 2005 12:45:52 GMT
nelstar, i'm probably blacker then you, so don't start on my with the bleaching. I dont even where hair extensions, my hair is 100% real, i am in no way trying to look european. For you info, i am happy being black, I have no problem with it, and i don't see how anything i wrote shows the contrary. I bet you i'm prouder of my african roots then you are.
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Post by Bogibenda on Oct 19, 2005 12:28:20 GMT
Achieng hebu wa show!!!!
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Post by shykoh on Nov 8, 2005 12:41:43 GMT
Achieng....where did you go? ?
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xachiengx
New Kid on the Block
How could something so wrong make me feel so right, right?
Posts: 41
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Post by xachiengx on Nov 11, 2005 12:36:34 GMT
Nowhere, i just had uni work darlin. And i didnt understand the 2nd last post: My swahili is poor
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